They Called My Son ‘Names,’ But What I Did Next Changed Everything!

I am Samita, the mother of two beautiful children: a son named Ebad and a daughter named Anha. I got married at an early age and joined a large joint family. I was 18 years old at that time.

At 19, I became pregnant with my son. During that time, I faced both physical and mental trauma. Although I lived in a joint family surrounded by many people, they were less helpful and less cooperative.

There were frequent trips to the hospital, and the doctors strictly advised me to take care of my physical and mental health, or we might lose either the mother or the child.

But God had his own plan. He saved both of us.

Just one month before his birth, I turned 20. In the next month, my miracle child, my son, entered the world. He was weak, underweight, and had a wheatish complexion. He didn’t have fair skin.

Color Discrimination My Child Faced

I heard many insulting remarks about his complexion. You know how it feels when someone calls your child by hurtful names, like “Kalu,” “Kawwa,” and others. Going through that phase and dealing with people, even our own relatives, for something we aren’t responsible for, was completely nerve-wracking.

As time passed, he started growing, but some people still didn’t allow him to drink water from their glass or use their tap. Others wouldn’t let him touch their children. He began facing discrimination from his own relatives, and the tender mind of my little, innocent baby couldn’t handle all the insults.

He started losing his confidence. As a mother, I was observing all of this. I noticed the toxic behavior of others, and people were treating him unfairly.

One evening, while I was playing with him, he touched my hand and asked, “Why am I not fair like you, Mumma? Why do people call me Kallu, Kaaliya?”

His innocent words broke my heart. I realized that this discrimination could have serious negative effects on his mental health and overall well-being, significantly impacting his quality of life.

How I Started Rebuilding His Confidence

I decided I had to be strong and speak up. I had to take a stand. “Enough is enough!” I thought. No one—whether near or far—had the right to hurt my child. This couldn’t continue any longer.

One should never underestimate the power and courage a mother has! I started setting boundaries with negative people and began working on my child’s personality development.

Ebad was very good in academics, so I started motivating him. I began showing him his positive qualities and telling him about his strengths.

I enrolled him in sports, music, dance, and extracurricular activities. He started performing on stage, in school, university, and even on TV shows. Wherever I found an opportunity, I took him along to participate and prepared him to face the world.

When he was in school, he excelled in Abacus and scored 100% marks. In college, he scored 100% in Accounts (B.Com Hons).

He sings, plays the guitar, and participates in shows. His communication skills improved, and he won prizes and awards. People began to recognize and appreciate him. I taught him that from fair to dark, every skin tone is beautiful. Your skin doesn’t define your capabilities.

I gave examples of leaders, legends, and great people who had dark skin, and how they succeeded, achieved, and reached great heights. I showed him how people love and respect them.

I taught him that skill matters and skin doesn’t matter. I encouraged him to learn new skills and participate in every field. These little things began boosting his confidence.

The Transformation

Now, at 27 years old, he has transformed into a confident, intelligent, and handsome man. He completed his MBA and learned the Japanese language.

He has worked with top management teams in Suzuki, Honda, and Toyota. Now, he works as a Project Head and Japanese Interpreter/Translator in a multinational company, teaching Japanese to corporates as well.

People who once bullied, insulted, and shamed him now use his example to inspire their children. Now, they say, “Be like Ebad. See how multi-talented and good human being he is!”

“Anha was born eight years after Ebad, and by then, I had become more determined and stronger, vowing that I would never allow anyone to hurt her.” Today, both of my kids are confident and intelligent, excelling in their respective fields.”

Message To Moms

Parenting can be challenging, especially when there are negative people around. But a mother can change the whole world for her children.

As mothers, we should recognize our strengths. A mama bear can stand between her child and an entire army, fighting with every breath and ounce of energy she has to make sure her child is safe.

Never allow anyone to mistreat your child, and protect them from toxic people. Do what is good for your child, remind your kids of their strength and potential, and tell them that no one can dim their light.

Remember: “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”

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