My Second Pregnancy || Journey of Challenges || All’s Well That Ends Well

1st of April, 2021, around 5 a.m. I didn’t know that my world was going to be different altogether after 10 minutes.
It’s not about any movie but about my second pregnancy news, which I got on this day. I was overwhelmed and, with teary eyes, went to my husband and whispered in his ear, YES !!!!

He got it, but suddenly a silence was there because we were not prepared for this. Somewhere in my heart, I was scared because loads of questions were in my mind as it was my second pregnancy experience. As a mother to a 5-year-old girl already, I was like how it would be after the second baby for her.

But God always has other plans.

The Dilemma of Second Pregnancy During Covid

For almost a week, we were in a dilemma about how we would continue with this as loads of anxiety and fear were there related to my 5-year-old.

We didn’t disclose it to anyone nor went to any doctor. In fact, we both were on our workplaces. That time Covid second wave was at peak. Everything was on mobile or video calls with everyone. My school was working but after some time everything was shut due to the pandemic.

My doctor visit was also not there as we were scared to go outside. But to get ourselves sure we went for a blood test. The reports were awaited and it was POSITIVE. We were pregnant for the second time and informed the family.

First Trimester Struggles

Although I got to know late when I missed my cycle, the severe pain in the lower abdomen was different from regular pain. I have thyroid problems too, so generally my cycle gets delayed. But this pain made me crazy and that’s how I went for the pregnancy test.

The first trimester was like hell as loads of pain and disturbed eating schedules went on. I was getting weak day by day. Then in June 2021, my first doctor visit finally happened. That time I have started my work again as everything started opening after 3 months.

Second Trimester Complications – Placenta Previa

Since my second trimester, I was complaining of pain in private parts a lot plus many problems. The doctor suggested going for an ultrasound. We did and found that my placenta was low lying, which is why I had terrible pain.

In the beginning of July 2021, that pain became unbearable and we went for another ultrasound which cleared that somehow the pain was due to some internal bleeding. That day, the doctor and we were almost unsure whether I would be able to carry on this pregnancy or not.

And yes, the fear took a turn when the doctor said I had to be on complete bed rest as it was getting risky for the baby. From then, the problems got bigger day by day.

I was on heavy medications and injections for continuing this difficult pregnancy.

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Daily Struggles of a Difficult Second Pregnancy

In the month of August 2021, my situation was such that sometimes I could not even manage to go to the washroom. The pain after injections was hell.

Adding worst to my condition, during this pregnancy I was not able to drink milk due to its smell. I couldn’t eat chapati properly as my stomach always felt full, although I was hungry all the time.

Lots of pain in legs, backache, restlessness, and rashes on the body were a regular thing in the last semester.

As people say the second trimester is the best and safest period of pregnancy, but mine was the opposite. I was on bed rest with no help due to the pandemic and a 5-year-old daughter to look after.

I was almost in tears thinking why I was not able to enjoy my second pregnancy journey like the first one.

My expected delivery month was November, that too at the end. So you can imagine, from July to November I was supposed to be in bed. I was so sad and felt lifeless at times.

But my online classes made me feel alive—even though I did them with loads of pain and uneasiness.

As they say, no gain without pain.

This pain was worth it when you see your students smile… and when you see your daughter super excited for her sibling’s arrival. Her level of excitement was beyond measure.

We were preparing her for the little one’s arrival—her classes, homework, food, and what not kept me busy. Amidst my pain, I sometimes used to tell myself that whatever is coming my way will be more beautiful.

A life within you for the second time gives you goosebumps, especially when it’s a difficult pregnancy. This time it was full of turns and turmoils.

• I couldn’t go outside, all thanks to Covid (I hate you corona!).

• I couldn’t go to mayka often to get pampered by my mother.

• No junk food was allowed as my stomach wasn’t good that time.

• Due to ill health, I couldn’t dress up properly.

• And even though all the festivals came and went, I couldn’t celebrate them because of bed rest.

Final Months – Fear of Premature Delivery

By the end of September, my pains were getting terrible and we were afraid after talking to the doctor that it could be a premature delivery. But somehow, I was determined that no, I would bear the pain.

In October, I took maternity leave to take more rest as I was stressed due to health, baby, and work. This whole month, the baby’s movements were very disturbing, so we had to visit the doctor again and again. I was not eating well and the baby’s growth was also not up to the mark. Again that fear of premature delivery came into mind and the doctor said, “Be prepared.”

I was like—it’s the end of November, and it was just the middle of October. The thought of such an early delivery scared me.

We prepared ourselves according to the doctor, but yes, that fear of a premature baby was very scary. But God gave us some more time.

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Delivery & Arrival of My Baby Boy

I entered into the last month of my pregnancy with loads of difficulties and went a week ahead. Since the start, I wanted to go for normal delivery but the doctor said since the first was a C-section, the second will likely be the same.

We still tried everything for a normal delivery – milk with ghee, walking, working – but all went in vain. A day before my delivery, the ultrasound showed less water, and the baby was at risk. It was decided that an immediate operation should be done.

We then discussed with some doctors if we could wait for some more time or not. But as the situation was getting worse, it was decided to happen on the 1st of November. Still, we wanted to get it done on the 2nd, as it was an auspicious occasion of Dhanteras, and also the same day when my husband’s grandfather had passed away.

And it happened! People in the family said, “Ajay ke dadaji waapis aa gaye.”

All the pain was worth it as I was blessed with a healthy baby boy by my side, slightly preterm.

Reflections on My Second Pregnancy Journey

This second pregnancy was not easy—it was full of turns, turmoils, and pain. But when I saw my daughter’s excitement for her sibling and when I finally held my son, I realized this was the greatest blessing of God.

Yes, people say it right—it makes a woman complete. And today, I can say with pride and gratitude:

Yes, I AM COMPLETE AFTER MY SECOND PREGNANCY.

With love,
Rishu

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