Every parent speaks thousands of words to their child in a day—some out of habit, some out of love, and others out of sheer busyness.
But have you ever paused to think:
“What is my child absorbing? What are these words becoming inside them?”
As a mother with a passion for learning about child psychology, I believe in the power of words and the impact they can have on my child’s mindset. While I’m not a trained psychologist, my ongoing interest in understanding how children think and grow has led me to explore various ways of positively shaping Hitarth’s perspective.
Over the years, I’ve noticed a quiet magic unfolding—just by saying a few simple sentences every day.
Here are the 5 things I consciously say to my child daily—and why they’re more powerful than they seem.
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1. “You are wonderful. You are kind. You are helpful.”
Yes, I know some experts say we should praise behavior, not identity. But in my home, I’m planting beliefs.
When I say this, I’m not just complimenting him. I’m programming his subconscious to see himself as kind and helpful.
And trust me—he lives up to it.
One day, I asked him to just clear the toys from the sofa. I came back and saw he had cleaned the table, mopped the floor, and said,
“Mumma, I did more because I’m a helpful boy, na?”
That’s when I knew—these words are shaping his reality.
Telling him he’s amazing builds confidence and assures him he is loved just the way he is. Emphasizing kindness helps him grow with empathy in a world that sometimes forgets its value. And by calling him helpful, I not only encourage responsibility but also strengthen his sense of purpose and belonging within our home.
These everyday affirmations are my gentle way of raising a confident, compassionate, and grounded child.
2. “You can do it. I believe in you.”
Whether he’s building a Lego tower or struggling with something, these words are my mantra to him.
Once, his tower kept falling. Instead of frustration, he took a deep breath, looked at me, and said,
“I can do it again, right Mumma?”
And I almost had tears in my eyes.
Because that moment wasn’t about toys. It was about his inner voice, the one that will speak to him even when I’m not around.
I remind him that no task is too big if he puts his mind to it. Whether it’s building a Lego tower or solving a new problem, I want him to feel empowered and capable. This builds resilience and encourages him to take on challenges with confidence.
Also read: The Power of Bedtime Conversations: How Talking with Hitarth Eases My Parenting Journey
3. “Let’s thank Hanumanji for helping us today.”
Every night, before sleep, I say this.
Gratitude has become our bedtime routine.
It’s not about religion, really. It’s about instilling faith, surrender, and trust.
He now says thank you to his Hanuman Ji for small wins—finding a lost crayon, getting a smiley from the teacher, or just having a happy day. Even if something good happens to me, he would say, ”Mumma, you know, Hanuman ji has helped you, so we should thank him.”
These nightly whispers of thanks?
They are shaping his subconscious to look at life with gratitude and grace.
4. “It’s okay. Try again. Mistakes are allowed.”
I say this especially when he spills, breaks, or forgets something.
Our kids are already under so much pressure—school, peers, perfection.
I want home to be the place where mistakes are safe.
We all make mistakes, and I believe it’s important to teach children that failure is not something to fear, but an opportunity to learn. Hitarth has started saying to himself, “I can do it again,” or “It’s okay, I can fix it” whenever something doesn’t go right, which shows how he’s embracing the idea of learning from mistakes.
That’s the inner resilience being built.
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5. “I am proud of you & I love you no matter what.”
This one seems obvious. But I don’t say it casually.
I say it especially when he’s upset, angry, or has made a mistake.
Because I want him to know—my love is not conditional on good behavior or success.
This simple sentence creates a secure emotional base. A space where he can be himself, fully.
🌱 Final Thoughts
These five lines are not magic spells.
But they are daily seeds—seeds that will grow into beliefs, behaviors, and inner strength.
These small affirmations might seem simple, but they create an environment where Hitarth feels supported and encouraged to grow. It’s amazing how much of an impact these words can have, shaping his mindset in ways that will guide him throughout his life.
If you’re a parent reading this, maybe try picking just one line to start saying daily.
You’ll be surprised how deeply children absorb our words—and reflect them back in beautiful ways.
Because in the end, it’s not just about what we say.
It’s about what they start believing.
💬 What’s one thing you tell your child every day? I’d love to hear in the comments.
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