When Teacher is Being Unfair to Your Child: A Mother’s Manifestation Story

How I Knew the Teacher Was Being Unfair to My Child

For weeks, I questioned myself.

“Am I being one of those helicopter parents?”
“Maybe Ria really is a handful.”
“Maybe I just don’t want to see my child’s faults.”

But deep down, the signs were impossible to ignore.

The pattern was crystal clear:

Double standards everywhere:

• When Ria asked questions, it was “talking back.” When other students did, it was “engagement.”
• Ria forgot her homework once—instant parent email. Another child forgot twice that week—nothing.
• Ria collaborated with classmates during independent work—”not following directions.” Others did the same—no comment.

The signs of a teacher being unfair to your child aren’t always obvious at first, but the pattern becomes clear over time.

The change in my daughter:

• She went from jumping out of bed for school to dragging her feet every morning
• Started saying things like “I’m not smart enough” (she’s gifted!)
• Her confidence in raising her hand disappeared completely
• Sunday nights became anxiety-filled with mysterious “tummy aches”

The comparison that proved it: Ria’s 3rd-grade teacher had loved her. Literally sent me messages saying “Ria is such a joy to teach!” Same kid. Different teacher. Completely different experience.

This wasn’t about Ria suddenly becoming a “problem child.”

The constant emails about minor things while other kids’ major issues go unmentioned. The way they describe your child with words like “difficult” and “challenging” instead of “spirited” and “creative.”

I was tired of doubting my own perception.

What I Tried Before Manifestation (Spoiler: It Made Things Worse)

I did everything the “good parent handbook” suggests.

Attempt #1: The Respectful Conversation

I requested a meeting. Came prepared with specific examples. Spoke calmly.

“I’ve noticed Ria seems to be struggling this year. Her previous teacher never mentioned these issues. I’m wondering if there’s something we can work on together?”

The teacher’s response? A 15-minute monologue about everything wrong with Ria.

• Too opinionated
• Questions too much
• Doesn’t accept feedback gracefully
• Needs to learn to “just follow directions without needing explanations”

When I mentioned Ria had always been curious and that other teachers appreciated it, I got: “Well, she needs to learn that not every teacher will cater to her personality.”

Attempt #2: The Principal Route

Surely the administration would see that this treatment was unfair, right?

Wrong.

“Mrs. Mehta, I understand you’re concerned, but Ms. Davis is an experienced teacher. Perhaps Ria just needs time to adjust to her teaching style.”

Translation: We’re backing our staff, not your kid.

Attempt #3: Working Overtime With Ria

I became obsessed with making Ria “perfect.”

We practiced:

• Not asking “why” when given instructions
• Sitting completely still
• Only speaking when called on
• Following every single rule to the letter

You know what happened?

The teacher found NEW things to complain about.

Now Ria was “too quiet” and “not participating enough.” Her handwriting needed work. Her projects were “rushed” (they weren’t).

That’s when it hit me: No amount of perfection would change this teacher’s perception of my daughter.

The problem wasn’t Ria’s behavior. It was something deeper.

Attempt #4: The Documentation Strategy

I started keeping a detailed log of every incident, every email, building a case.

All it did was keep me in a constant state of anger and vigilance. Every school day became about “what will I need to document today?”

I was stressed. My husband was stressed. And Ria could feel all of it.

We were all suffering, and nothing was changing.

The Random Facebook Post That Changed My Life

It was 10:30 PM on a Tuesday. I was in a parenting group, venting about another unfair incident.

A mom I didn’t know sent me a private message:

“I saw your post. I was in almost the exact same situation last year with my son and his 5th-grade teacher. I tried everything—meetings, principal, even hired an educational advocate. Nothing worked. Then someone told me about manifestation and the law of attraction. I thought it was complete nonsense, but I was desperate. Within three weeks, the entire dynamic shifted. My son’s teacher went from sending complaint emails to praising him. I know it sounds crazy, but would you be open to hearing what I did?”

I stared at that message for a solid minute.

Manifestation? Like… visualizing and affirmations? For a teacher problem?

It sounded absolutely ridiculous.

But I was also completely out of options. And desperate.

I messaged back: “Tell me everything.”

My 30-Day Manifestation Experiment

I’ll be honest: I approached this with about 10% belief and 90% “well, I’ve tried everything else.”

But I committed to 30 days. Full effort. Because what did I have to lose?

My daughter was already miserable. My stress levels couldn’t get higher. And nothing else was working anyway.

Week 1: Confronting My Own Negativity (Ouch)

The first thing I had to admit was painful:

I was contributing to this negative cycle.

Every single morning drop-off, I’d watch Ria walk into school thinking: “I wonder how long until I get the email today.”

Every time my phone dinged: “What did she do now?”

Every conversation with my husband: “This teacher has it out for her.”

I was living in constant expectation of problems. And guess what? I kept getting them.

My first practice: Morning Affirmations

I set my alarm 10 minutes earlier. Before Ria woke up, I’d sit with my tea and say out loud:

• “Ria’s teacher sees her curiosity as a gift today”
• “Ms. Davis and Ria communicate with mutual respect”
• “Ria feels confident and happy at school”
• “The teacher recognizes Ria’s intelligence and creativity”
• “Today brings understanding and positive interactions”

The first morning, I felt absolutely RIDICULOUS. Like I was talking to myself like a crazy person.

Important: Don’t just say them—FEEL them as if they’re already true.

The first few days felt silly. By day 5, I noticed I wasn’t anxious during school drop-off anymore.

But I kept going.

The Gratitude Challenge:

Every night, I had to write three things I was grateful for about this situation.

Even when I didn’t want to. Even when it felt forced.

Night 1: “I’m grateful this is teaching Ria that not everyone will understand her immediately.”
Night 2: “I’m grateful I have the awareness to work on this differently.”
Night 3: “I’m grateful Ria knows I believe in her no matter what anyone says.”

Week 2: Visualization (This Felt Weird But Worked)

Every night after Ria went to sleep, I’d spend 10-15 minutes doing something that felt completely foreign to me: visualizing.

I’d close my eyes and create a detailed mental movie:

Scene 1: Ria raising her hand in class, the teacher calling on her with a smile, nodding appreciatively at her answer.

Scene 2: Checking my email and seeing a message from the teacher—but this time it says something positive about Ria.

Scene 3: Ria running to the car after school, excited to tell me about her day instead of holding back tears.

Scene 4: The teacher and Ria having a genuine moment of connection over a project.

The crucial part (I learned from that mom): Don’t just see it. FEEL it.

I had to feel the relief in my chest. The joy. The gratitude. The peace.

Some nights, I’d get so into it that tears would roll down my face—happy tears, feeling what it would be like when the teacher stopped being unfair to my child.

Week 3: The Hardest Part – Letting Go

This week almost broke me.

I had to stop doing things that felt “productive” but were actually keeping me stuck:

I had to STOP:

• Obsessively checking Ria’s school portal for updates
• Venting to other parents at pickup about the teacher
• Replaying negative incidents in my mind on repeat
• Mentally preparing for the “next battle”
• Reading and re-reading old complaint emails

The Scripting Practice:

Instead, I started writing journal entries as if everything was already resolved:

“May 15th – I can’t believe how much has changed! Ria came home today saying Ms. Davis chose her to present their group project. She was beaming! The teacher even emailed me (yes, a positive email!) saying how impressed she is with Ria’s leadership skills. It’s like we’re in a completely different reality than two months ago. I’m so grateful I trusted this process when it seemed impossible…”

I wrote these in present tense, with emotion, as if I was journaling from the future.

Catching and Redirecting Thoughts

Every time I thought:

• “This teacher hates my kid”
• “Nothing will change”
• “Why is this happening to us?”

I’d STOP and say: “That’s the old story. I’m writing a new one.”

Then replace it with: “The teacher is being fair to my child and seeing her clearly now.”

I had to do this 20+ times a day at first. But it worked.

The Hardest Practice: Releasing the “How”

I had to stop trying to control HOW this would resolve.

My mind wanted specific outcomes:

• The teacher apologizes
• Ria gets moved to a different class
• The principal intervenes

I had to let ALL of that go and just trust: “This will resolve in the perfect way, even if I can’t see how right now.”

Week 4: Taking Different Action (Not More Action)

Manifestation isn’t about sitting back and doing nothing.

But it IS about taking action from a completely different energy.

Old energy: Fear, desperation, trying to force change
New energy: Calm, trust, inspired nudges

What I did differently:

1. Changed how I talked to Ria

BEFORE: “Did Ms. Davis say anything to you today? Did you get in trouble? What happened?”

NOW: “What made you smile today? What’s something interesting you learned?”

I stopped making school conversations all about the teacher problem.

2. One genuine appreciation email

One day, I felt a nudge (not forced, genuinely inspired) to email the teacher.

Ria had mentioned Ms. Davis explained a science concept in a cool way. I wrote:

“Hi Ms. Davis, Ria came home so excited about the photosynthesis experiment you did yesterday. She spent 20 minutes explaining it to her dad at dinner! Thank you for making science come alive for her.”

Short. Genuine. No hidden agenda. No mention of past issues.

I didn’t get a response. But that wasn’t the point.

3. Stopped defending every single thing

When Ria came home saying she got corrected for something, instead of immediately jumping to “that’s so unfair,” I’d say:

“Hmm, what do you think you could try differently next time?”

Not making her wrong. Not making the teacher wrong. Just encouraging self-reflection.

This subtle shift helped Ria stop going to school on the defensive.

When I Knew Something Was Shifting

By the end of week 4

Ria came home and casually said: “Ms. Davis said my paragraph about the water cycle was well-written.”

One compliment. One tiny positive comment.

But it was the FIRST positive thing Ria had mentioned about this teacher in WEEKS.

I wanted to throw a party. But I just smiled and said: “That’s great, sweetheart!”

Inside, I was doing a happy dance.

Week 5: The Email That Made Me Cry

My phone buzzed. Email from school.

My heart rate jumped (old habit).

Subject: Ria’s Creativity

I opened it with shaking hands:

“Mrs. Mehta, I wanted to share that Ria came up with a brilliant solution during our math problem-solving session today. She approached it in a way I hadn’t considered, and it helped several other students understand the concept. Just wanted to let you know!”

I read it three times to make sure I wasn’t hallucinating.

Then I cried. Happy, relieved, “oh my god it’s actually working” tears.

Week 6: The Transformation Everyone Noticed

Ria started humming in the car on the way to school.

HUMMING.

She hadn’t done that in months.

She raised her hand in class again. She came home talking about projects with excitement. The Sunday night stomach aches disappeared.

My husband looked at me one evening and said: “What changed? She seems like herself again.”

Week 7: The Meeting That Changed Everything

I had a scheduled parent-teacher conference (one I’d been dreading).

I walked in repeating my affirmations silently: “This meeting brings understanding and positive connection.”

Ms. Davis started: “I wanted to talk to you about some wonderful changes I’ve been seeing in Ria…”

Wait. What?

She spent 20 minutes talking about:

• Ria’s creative problem-solving
• How she’s become more collaborative with peers
• Her improved “receptiveness to feedback”
• Her enthusiasm in class discussions

Then she said something that absolutely floored me:

“I think Ria and I got off to a rough start this year. I was seeing her questioning as pushback when really, she just has an inquisitive mind. I’m glad we’ve found our rhythm together.”

She acknowledged it.

Not a full apology, but an acknowledgment that HER perception had been the issue.

I walked out of that meeting in a daze.

Sometimes, a simple shift in perception is all it takes for a teacher to see the ‘hidden jewel’ in your child. I’ve shared a real-life example of this transformation in this remarkable true story.

What Actually Changed? (The Truth About How This Works)

Here’s the thing that still amazes me: Ria is still Ria.

She’s still curious. Still asks “why.” Still questions things. Still opinionated.

She didn’t transform into a completely different child.

But somehow, those exact same qualities were now being seen through a completely different lens.

When you’re dealing with a teacher being unfair to your child, your energy and mindset matter more than you realize.

So what really shifted?

My theory:

1. I changed the energy I was bringing

When I stopped radiating anxiety, fear, and “us vs. her” energy every morning, it created space for something different to unfold.

Energy is contagious. My calm confidence gave both Ria and the teacher permission to reset.

2. Ria relaxed

When I stopped being a ball of stress about school, Ria picked up on that. She wasn’t walking into class already defensive and braced for criticism.

She approached the teacher with openness instead of guardedness.

3. The teacher got space to see differently

Maybe she was having her own struggles early in the year. Maybe my positive email reminded her why she became a teacher. Maybe the universe nudged her awareness.

I don’t know the mechanism. But something shifted in her perception.

4. The universe conspired

Call it manifestation, law of attraction, or divine intervention—circumstances aligned in ways I couldn’t have orchestrated logically.

The timing of things. The specific words in that email. The moment of acknowledgment in the conference.

It felt… orchestrated by something bigger than me.

Interestingly, child psychologists highlight that children often misinterpret teacher behavior—and parents play a key role in helping them process these experiences calmly, as explained in this Psychology Today article.

Your Step-by-Step Manifestation Guide (What Actually Works)

If a teacher is being unfair to your child right now, start here:

Step 1: Acknowledge Where You Are (Radical Honesty)

Sit down with a journal and answer these:

• How am I contributing negative energy to this situation?
• What am I expecting every day when my child goes to school?
• Am I talking about this problem constantly?
• Have I made the teacher “the enemy” in my mind?
• What am I modeling for my child right now?

This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about seeing where you actually have power.

Journal prompt: “If I’m honest, what energy am I feeding this situation daily?”

Step 2: Build Your Daily Practice (Non-Negotiable)

MORNING RITUAL (5-7 minutes):

Before your child wakes up, sit somewhere quiet.

Say these affirmations OUT LOUD (yes, really):

• “[Child’s name]’s teacher sees their gifts clearly today”
• “The teacher and [child’s name] have mutual understanding and respect”
• “My child feels confident and happy at school”
• “Today brings positive interactions and growth”
• “I trust this situation is resolving perfectly”

Don’t just recite them. FEEL them. Imagine they’re already true.

EVENING PRACTICE (10-15 minutes):

After your child is in bed:

Close your eyes. Take three deep breaths.

Visualize in vivid detail:

• Your child walking into class with confidence
• The teacher smiling at them
• A positive interaction during the day
• Your child coming home happy
• You getting a compliment about your child from the teacher

FEEL the emotions: Relief washing over you. Joy. Gratitude. Peace.

If tears come, let them. That’s stuck energy releasing.

Step 3: The Gratitude Reframe

Every single night, write THREE things you’re grateful for about this challenging situation.

Examples:

• “I’m grateful this is teaching my child resilience they’ll need in life”
• “I’m grateful this pushed me to discover manifestation”
• “I’m grateful I get to show my child how to handle difficult people with grace”
• “I’m grateful for the relationship I have with my child through this”

This rewires your brain from victim to empowered.

Step 4: Catch and Redirect Negative Thoughts

Every time you catch yourself thinking:

• “This teacher is impossible”
• “Nothing’s going to change”
• “My poor child has to deal with this all year”
• “Why us?”

STOP.

Say out loud: “That’s the old story. I’m writing a new one now.”

Then immediately replace it with an affirmation.

This is hard. Your brain will resist. Do it anyway.

I had to redirect myself 30+ times a day in week one. By week three, it was maybe 5 times.

Step 5: Script Your New Reality

Get a journal dedicated to this.

Write entries as if the problem is ALREADY SOLVED.

Use present tense. Be specific. Be emotional:

“November 20th – I’m sitting here in total disbelief at how much has changed. [Child’s name] came home today and said Ms. [Teacher] chose them to help with the new student. Last month I was getting daily complaint emails, and now this! The teacher actually called just to tell me something positive. I can’t explain how it happened, but I trusted the process and now I’m living in a completely different reality…”

Write at least twice a week. Make it real.

Step 6: Take INSPIRED Action Only

There’s a huge difference between:

DESPERATE ACTION (comes from fear):

• Sending long emails explaining why your child isn’t the problem
• Demanding apologies
• Fighting for every tiny thing
• Constantly asking your child to report what happened

INSPIRED ACTION (comes from calm):

• Sending a genuine thank-you when something positive happens (even tiny)
• Having neutral conversations with your child about school
• Helping your child develop skills WITHOUT mentioning the teacher
• Trusting when to step in vs. when to let go

How to tell the difference:

Before taking any action, ask: “Am I doing this from fear or from trust?”

If it’s fear—wait. If it’s trust—move forward.

Step 7: Trust the Timeline (Even When You Can’t See Progress)

I saw first shifts in week 4. You might see them in week 2. Or week 8.

Manifestation doesn’t work on demand. It works in divine timing.

Your only job:

• Stay consistent with your daily practice
• Keep your energy high
• Look for small signs of progress
• Trust it’s working even when evidence isn’t visible yet

The moment you give up and go back to fear-mode, you’re resetting the energetic shift.

Related read: Why Emotional Strength for Children Should Be Our Top Priority in Schools

Manifestation Mistakes I Made (So You Don’t Have To)

Mistake #1: Skipping practice on “good days”

When Ria had one decent day, I’d think “Oh good, problem solved!” and skip my visualization.

Nope. You need consistency especially when things seem better.

The fix: Set a phone reminder. Make it non-negotiable like showering.

Mistake #2: Visualizing while doubting

Saying “The teacher appreciates my child” while thinking “Yeah right, that’ll never happen” sends mixed signals.

The fix: If full belief feels impossible, start smaller. Visualize just ONE neutral interaction. Build from there.

Mistake #3: Venting constantly

Every time I complained to another parent about how unfair the teacher was being, I was reinforcing that exact reality.

The fix: If you need to process, tell ONE trusted person ONCE. Then let it go. Stop retelling the story.

Mistake #4: Needing it to look a specific way

I wanted the teacher to apologize, admit she was wrong, maybe even get in trouble.

That attachment blocked the flow.

The fix: Release the “how.” Just affirm: “This resolves in the best way for everyone.”

Mistake #5: Ignoring my intuition about real harm

Manifestation is powerful, but it’s not a replacement for protecting your child.

If your child is being genuinely harmed—bullied, abused, traumatized—you need to take immediate protective action.

The fix: Trust your gut. Use manifestation TO SUPPORT practical action, not replace it.

Mistake #6: Comparing timelines

I’d read manifestation stories where things shifted in days and feel frustrated mine was taking weeks.

Everyone’s timeline is different.

The fix: Focus on YOUR practice. Trust YOUR timing.

How to Know It’s Working (Before External Evidence Shows Up)

You don’t have to wait for the teacher to change to know your manifestation is working.

Internal signs I noticed BEFORE anything external shifted:

I felt calmer

Even though the situation hadn’t changed yet, I wasn’t spiraling into panic anymore.

I caught myself thinking positive thoughts naturally

Without trying, I’d think “Maybe today will be good” instead of expecting disaster.

My child seemed lighter

Ria wasn’t mentioning the teacher as much. Less stressed. More herself.

Synchronicities appeared

I’d see 11:11 on the clock repeatedly. A friend randomly shared a similar success story. Little “winks from the universe.”

Opportunities emerged

The teacher happened to need a volunteer for a project Ria was good at. The seating chart changed. Small shifts that created space for new dynamics.

I felt empowered

I stopped feeling like a victim. I knew I was actively creating change, even if I couldn’t see it yet.

These internal shifts CREATE the external ones. Trust them.

What This Journey Taught Me About My Power

If someone had told me six months ago that I could shift a seemingly impossible situation just by changing my thoughts and energy, I would’ve laughed.

I’m a practical person. I believe in action, strategy, logic.

But this experience taught me something that changed my entire life:

Your energy creates your reality more than your actions do.

You can take ALL the “right” actions from a place of fear, desperation, and anger—and they’ll backfire.

OR you can take simple actions from a place of trust, calm, and positive expectation—and watch everything shift.

This isn’t just about dealing with unfair teachers. This applies to:

• Work conflicts
• Relationship struggles
• Money issues
• Health challenges
• Any situation where you feel stuck

The principles are identical:

1. Acknowledge your current energy
2. Shift to the energy of what you want
3. Visualize it as already done
4. Release how it’ll happen
5. Take inspired action
6. Trust the process

What I’d Tell Another Mom Going Through This Right Now

If you’re reading this in the middle of watching your child suffer from unfair treatment, here’s what I want you to know:

You are not powerless.

I know it feels that way. I know it seems like the teacher holds all the cards and you’re just along for the ride.

But you have more power than you realize.

Your child needs you calm, not combative.

They need to see you handle this with grace and trust, not panic and aggression.

That’s the greatest gift you can give them—showing them that you can shift impossible situations without losing your center.

This is temporary.

It feels endless right now. It won’t be.

One day (sooner than you think), this will be a story you tell about that time things seemed impossible but worked out anyway.

Start today.

If a teacher is being unfair to your child right now:

Don’t wait until you “believe” in manifestation 100%.

Just commit to 7 days of practice. See what happens.

The worst case? You’ll feel more peaceful during a difficult time.

The best case? Everything shifts in ways you couldn’t have imagined.

Close your eyes for 60 seconds right now.

Imagine your child coming home happy tomorrow. Smiling. Excited about school.

Feel it. Believe it. Trust it.

Then do it again tomorrow.

And watch what unfolds.

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Are you currently dealing with a teacher being unfair to your child? Have you tried manifestation for any parenting challenges? I’d love to hear your story in the comments below.

And if this helped you, please share it with another parent who needs to hear that they’re not powerless. 💛

Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is stop fighting and start trusting.

Everything else follows from there.

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Disclaimer: This post shares the personal experience of a mother who chose to remain anonymous. It reflects how she used manifestation techniques while navigating a difficult school situation with her child.

These practices are shared to support and empower parents, not to replace necessary protective action. If your child is facing abuse, severe bullying, or a serious mental health concern, please seek immediate professional help.

As a parent, always trust your instincts first. You know your child best.